Pain and Patience

How long can you do it? How much can a person endure? You try to do the right thing only to be slapped in the face repeatedly. Do you give up or keep beating your head against a stone wall? Maybe it's worth beating your head against a stone wall. Or is it? Where is the breaking point? This opening is completly irrellevant. This post is two fold. Pain and patience, perhaps two words that encompass the same concept. I believe they go hand and hand. Let's start with pain. There are two types of pain: physical pain and emtional pain. When I stub my toe (ouch) that really hurts. You get shot in the arm (ouch) that hurts as well, probably a little more. You fall down a flight of stairs and sustain a couple of injuries (ouch). Then there is the pain where feelings get involved (not a fan of this type of pain). Referring to emotional pain. We have all experienced emotional pain i.e. the loss of a loved one, a break up from a long term relationship, someone called you a nigger. That type of pain. Both hurt, but scraping your knee on the concrete and a parent telling you are worthless and will never contribute to society hurts a little different. Am I right? I could accidently touch a hot stove and burn the shit out of my hand... but your significant other telling you I slept with your sister burns just as painfully if not more. Let me get to the point I'm attempting to make, pain is pain regardless... it fucking hurts. The ultimate question is, does it leave a scar? Physically or emotionally? One is visible and the other is not but do they not hurt the same? Physical scars last forever but do emotional scars? Can emotional scars be healed? Secondly is patience. Some have it and some don't. Why is that? People are born with legs, feet, a head, and a torso. Why are they not born with patience? I realize this is a silly premise but stay with me for a moment. If we can be born with a brain why can we not be born with patience. Seems pretty simple to me. "Iv'e been waiting for three minutes for my latte!" Hmmmm, can't wait 4 minutes? That's an easy example. The patience I am refering to is a little more nuanced in the sense of dealing with a bunch of bullshit and not losing your shit. Like your wife treats you like an asshole and you suck it up. Your kids act a fool in the morning before school and you don't scream at them. That's patience. A kid on the softball team you are coaching can't field a ground ball and you don't yell at them like they murdered your first born (I've seen it happen). So now let me bring this all together; patience and pain or pain and patience are brother and sister. Patience sometimes invovles pain, and pain sometimes involves patience. Here is a good example that I literally just came up with: as a boxer you may have to get punched in the face over and over again but if you are patient they will tire themself out and you win the fight. Or if your significant other is impatient and you are patient, that can become very painful. Bottom line, patience is a choice. Pain is an outcome. Peaces and Creases TBN Out